Category:Slave Training

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Slave Training involves advanced Negotiations of Power Exchange, levels of Consent and Relationship dynamics and is a form of relationship specific training generally following a period of consideration associated with M/s dynamics that is intended to lead to the application of a final collar and contract if such conventions are adhered to.

In practical terms, training involves learning and practicing desired skills and services, and adhering to the household's structure of protocols and rituals which develops and reinforces habits of obedience and eases submission in other areas.

While slave training is most commonly associated with M/s style power exchange, the techniques can be applied to virtually any sort of power exchange with some minor creative modifications.


While individual techniques are widely varied, most slave training principles will follow the following format for the Master:

  • 1) Set a clear and concise expectation, proceed to 2 (If step 1 is failed, repeat step 1, ensure you have given the appropriate training and tools needed for success),
  • 2A) Slave meets expectation, success is achieved, reinforce the slave positively. Put into practice and with routine success then consider adding additional power and responsibility to the slave as you will.
  • 2B) slave fails to meet expectation, proceed to 3,
  • 3) Identify the reason for failure through assessment and communication, proceed to 4,
  • 4A) If failure is due to a poor slave attitude, retrain and apply the minimum appropriate consequence to establish correction as needed.
  • 4B) If failure is due to poor slave skill, reassess and retrain as needed.
  • 4C) If the slave is legitimately incapable (such as due to a physical or mental limitation), reassess and reassign the expectation as needed.

The Four P's

The 4 P's Model breaks training down into teaching the d-type's protocols, preferences and principles, and aligns the s-type or slave's perceptions with their status. In the M/s ongoing training model, these 4 P's have to be actively maintained as well as taught, and updated if the dominant's desires or other circumstances change.

  • Principles - the d-type's core and general ethical values and practical principles, which a s-type can use to deal with unanticipated situations.
  • Protocols - rules that govern the body behavior and attitude for the s-type, including both practical issues and rituals.
  • Preferences - the personal likes and dislikes of the dominant (and anyone else they will be serving.)
  • Perceptions - including rejecting false entitlement, or feeling owned due to Internal Enslavement.

Period of Training

Training of s-types and slaves is viewed as both an initial period of teaching and an ongoing process, similar to athletes or dancers who "keep up with their training".

Frequently a common period of training will extend for one year of live in service.

A period of training may have a contract of its own.

The period of training can involve a certain amount of self-training by the slave, however, keeping up with training in a long term relationship imposes a role and obligations on the Master as the ultimate enforcers of the standards they choose to require.

Transparency and Full Disclosure

The state in which the owner has full rights to access all or any of the s-type's mental and emotional activity. This can be achieved by the s-type being required to answer any questions, being required to volunteer certain types of information as applicable in the moment or through some designated schedule or method of disclosure such as a slave journal, or some combination of the two.

What information the slave volunteers will reflect how the Master prioritizes information and what degree of control they wish to exert in a given area.

Psychological Reactance

It has been suggested that repeatedly being confronted with rules that must be obeyed helps wear down feelings of psychological reactance.

Brehm summarised his Theory of Psychological Reactance by saying: "In general, the theory holds that a threat to or loss of a freedom motivates the individual to restore that freedom. ... The theory stipulates what constitutes a freedom, how freedoms can be threatened or eliminated, and how the ensuing motivational state (psychological reactance) will manifest itself." [1]

The theory also associates the state of reactance with emotional stress, anxiety, resistance and struggle for the individual, and is a powerful model for understanding the behaviour of slaves as their freedoms are progressively removed.


Subduction ("leading below") is a term borrowed from Geology and used in enslavement to describe the process by which a slave's freedoms are stripped away. It is derived from an analogy between the slave's response to this process and earthquakes.

This whole process of increasing control in M/s is often said to be analogous to the plates in the earth's crust sliding past each other. One of the sea bed plates slides under the continental crust by "subduction". Sometimes this goes smoothly, and you don't notice it going under. But other times it sticks and there's no progress being made until the pressure builds up and up until there's a violent earthquake. It's all very disruptive and fraught at the time, but afterwards everyone sees that a big chunk of the plate has gone under in one huge movement.

Strong reactions to increasing control, ie psychological reactance, are not unnatural or uncommon - in many ways they are the symptom that things that really matter to the slave are being controlled. That does not excuse disobedience, but it can give clues as to the current state of subduction and that new tools and techniques may need to be implemented before steady progress can occur.

Anticipatory service vs. reactive service

See Service Orientation.

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This category has the following 2 subcategories, out of 2 total.