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Admin: /* How to host your own munch */

2015-07-26T21:59:13Z

‎How to host your own munch

Admin: /* General Munch Etiquette */

2014-09-27T03:04:30Z

‎General Munch Etiquette

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2014-09-27T03:03:00Z

‎General Munch Etiquette

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‎General Munch Etiquette

Admin: /* No play at a munch */

2014-09-27T03:01:13Z

‎No play at a munch

Admin at 19:40, 13 June 2014

2014-06-13T19:40:13Z

Tersia: Updating a reference to BDSM 201 to Theory, its effective replacement.

2014-05-09T22:04:25Z

Updating a reference to BDSM 201 to Theory, its effective replacement.

Admin at 16:21, 6 April 2014

2014-04-06T16:21:53Z

Admin at 02:03, 2 April 2014

2014-04-02T02:03:32Z

Admin: Reverted edits by Lady FyreRaine (talk) to last revision by Admin

2014-03-28T12:10:18Z

Reverted edits by Lady FyreRaine (talk) to last revision by Admin

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 *'''Consider a venue for your munch.''' Munches should be publicly accessible whenever possible. Low cost restaurants with a large room area that can be sectioned off are great, as are coffee shops for smaller munches, all being well lit and safe places with not too much noise.  Consider that most munches start small and can grow much larger, sometimes very quickly.  Call ahead and ask if you can host a party of individuals for a local meet up group to the establishment and book a time at least two weeks in advance.  This will give you enough time to promote your munch to attract attendees.  Set a location, time to meet, and frequency.  Most munches are run monthly or bi-weekly.
 *'''Set up a code of ethics''' similar to the munch etiquette listed above.  Be sure to reign in the conversations if the attendees start to loudly discuss topics that are highly sexual or kinky so as not to disturb other patrons or the establishment staff and owners.
 *'''Establish secret codes in advance.'''  A typical code might be to refer to the group as "computer club" or "hiking club" to the establishment staff as well as to others that might inquire about the group so as not to divulge information and respect confidentiality of other attendees.
 *'''Publicize the event''' consider using various internet channels to promote your event.

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 *'''Treat people as people.'''  Perhaps many enjoy objectification and to be thought of as a sex object, but they will require that you build trust and friendship before you can ever approach those sorts of relationship dynamics with them.  At a munch, be friendly and respectful to others.
 *'''Be courteous and respectful to your waitstaff, and be sure to tip well.'''  If you don't, you may not be invited to host another event at that establishment.
-*'''Be very wary of [[consent]] violations.'''  Do not touch another person without asking.  [[Best practices]] indicate to ask before touching someone and ask if a worn necklace is a [[collar]] or not and what its significance is.  If someone violates your consent, be sure to tell them.   If someone violates your consent, consider sharing this with the munch coordinator.
+*'''Be very wary of [[consent]] violations.'''  Do not touch another person without asking.  [[Best practices]] indicate to ask before touching someone and ask if a worn necklace is a [[collar]] or not and what its significance may be as these are typical potential pitfalls.  If someone violates your consent, be sure to tell them.   If someone violates your consent, consider sharing this with the munch coordinator.
 *'''Exchanging personal information.'''  Be sure not to divulge highly personal details about yourself right away, such as your real name, address, phone number, and other information.  Consider using an online handle or profile name to exchange information to start communicating with others to protect yourself.
 *'''[[Red Flag| Red Flags]] and Politics.'''  Not everyone is going to be giving you the best advice or have an established reputation.  If you aren't sure about someone, give it some time and they will begin to show more of themselves to you.  Not every report about someone having a bad or good reputation is accurate.  Some people may have alternate agendas you may not perceive.  Let time help you figure these things out.

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 *'''Respect the confidentiality of the event.''' Do not ever compromise someone's anonymity regarding kink (aka "Out someone") or take pictures of people at a munch.
 *'''Jargon can be a barrier to first time attendees of a munch.'''  Understand the terms listed on the [[BDSM 101]] page at a minimum, consider knowing the terms on the [[BDSM Theory]] page to be able to speak more knowledgeably.
-*Because of confidentiality of the event, to not request probing information about someone's personal details such as where they work, where they live, what their real name is, etc. as that can give a bad impression.  It is fine if they volunteer these things, but it's generally not a good idea to probe for this information.
+*Because of confidentiality of the event, '''do not request probing information about someone's personal details''' such as where they work, where they live, what their real name is, etc. as that can give a bad impression.  It is fine if they volunteer these things, but it's generally not a good idea to probe for this information.
 *'''Treat people as people.'''  Perhaps many enjoy objectification and to be thought of as a sex object, but they will require that you build trust and friendship before you can ever approach those sorts of relationship dynamics with them.  At a munch, be friendly and respectful to others.
 *'''Be courteous and respectful to your waitstaff, and be sure to tip well.'''  If you don't, you may not be invited to host another event at that establishment.

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 *'''Respect the confidentiality of the event.''' Do not ever compromise someone's anonymity regarding kink (aka "Out someone") or take pictures of people at a munch.
-*'''Jargon can be a barrier to first time attendees of a munch.'''  Understand the terms listed on the [[BDSM 101]] page at a minimum, consider knowing the terms on the [[BDSM Theory]] page for bonus points.
+*'''Jargon can be a barrier to first time attendees of a munch.'''  Understand the terms listed on the [[BDSM 101]] page at a minimum, consider knowing the terms on the [[BDSM Theory]] page to be able to speak more knowledgeably.
 *Because of confidentiality of the event, to not request probing information about someone's personal details such as where they work, where they live, what their real name is, etc. as that can give a bad impression.  It is fine if they volunteer these things, but it's generally not a good idea to probe for this information.
 *'''Treat people as people.'''  Perhaps many enjoy objectification and to be thought of as a sex object, but they will require that you build trust and friendship before you can ever approach those sorts of relationship dynamics with them.  At a munch, be friendly and respectful to others.

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 == No play at a munch ==
-Most munches do not include [[play]] because the idea of a munch is to have a space where people can freely socialize and so that new people can specifically attend without firstly needing to be vetted and secondly, having a fear that some sort of play is to occur or that they must participate in anything other than casual conversation with others.  As such, leave your toys and other fetish gear outside.  This is a social event, not a place to conduct a [[scene]].
+Most munches do not normally include [[play]] because the idea of a munch is to have a space where people can freely socialize and so that new people can specifically attend without firstly needing to be vetted and secondly, having a fear that some sort of play is to occur or that they must participate in anything other than casual conversation with others.  As such, leave your toys and other fetish gear outside.  This is a social event, not a place to conduct a [[scene]].
 == Attire ==

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-A BDSM munch is an informal gathering of people with an interest in BDSM so that they can eat and socialize.
+A [[BDSM]] munch is an informal gathering of people with an interest in BDSM so that they can eat and socialize. Munches are most frequently held at public dining venues such as diners or restaurants.
-Munches tend to be social events, not educational events. Munches tend to be informal affairs with relatively little structure or protocol. Most munches are publicized primarily online, and the Internet figures prominently in their history and development.
+Munches tend to be social events, not educational events. Munches tend to be informal affairs with relatively little structure or [[protocol]]. Most munches are publicized primarily online, and the Internet figures prominently in their history and development.
 == How do I find a munch? ==
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 == No play at a munch ==
-Most munches do not include [[play]] because the idea of a munch is to have a space where people can freely socialize and so that new people can specifically attend without firstly needing to be vetted and secondly, having a fear that some sort of play is to occur or that they must participate in anything other than casual conversation with others.  As such, leave your toys and other fetish gear outside.  This is a social event, not a place to conduct a scene.
+Most munches do not include [[play]] because the idea of a munch is to have a space where people can freely socialize and so that new people can specifically attend without firstly needing to be vetted and secondly, having a fear that some sort of play is to occur or that they must participate in anything other than casual conversation with others.  As such, leave your toys and other fetish gear outside.  This is a social event, not a place to conduct a [[scene]].
 == Attire ==
-Consider your typical, casual attire to be appropriate.  Discreet collars and some black is generally accepted, but a high degree of fetish wear (leather harnesses, ball gags, etc.) at a non-fetish establishment can cause social problems and even a loss of the ability to host a munch at that particular establishment.
+Consider your typical, casual attire to be appropriate.  Discreet collars and some black is generally accepted, but a high degree of fetish wear (leather harnesses, ball gags, etc.) at a non-fetish establishment can sometimes cause social problems and even a loss of the ability to host a munch at that particular establishment.
 == General Munch Etiquette ==

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	*'''If your group is successful''' consider starting an online group or forum to support it, give it a name and consider creating other events for your group.		*'''If your group is successful''' consider starting an online group or forum to support it, give it a name and consider creating other events for your group.

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	Munches tend to be social events, not educational events. Munches tend to be informal affairs with relatively little structure or protocol. Most munches are publicized primarily online, and the Internet figures prominently in their history and development.		Munches tend to be social events, not educational events. Munches tend to be informal affairs with relatively little structure or protocol. Most munches are publicized primarily online, and the Internet figures prominently in their history and development.
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		+	== How do I find a munch? ==
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		+	Consider checking the [[:Category:Resources\| resources section]] for a list of [[:Category:Public Calendars of BDSM Events\| public calendars]] or simply using a resource designed for that exact purpose, findamunch.com[http://findamunch.com/]

	== Who can attend? ==		== Who can attend? ==

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+Normally anyone can attend a munch that is not specifically blacklisted from a group or location. Many munches do not have a screening process, but some do.
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+== No play at a munch ==