Aftercare - Revision history

Admin at 21:16, 3 September 2014

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‎After-Aftercare

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‎After-Aftercare

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‎Best Practices: Standard Aftercare

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Reverted edits by ZeppFan75 (talk) to last revision by Admin

2014-04-12T23:18:19Z

lol retard its oxytocin not oxycontin

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 Responsible aftercare doesn't just end shortly after the scene, but extends over that period of 1-3 days.
-To ensure the safety of everyone, the two will agree to a form of outreach as part of aftercare for the scene and during that outreach, report any abnormal deviations, bad moods/attitudes, feelings about the scene, and anything else that might be relevant.  This also helps with enhancing communication and trust between the two parties and avoid the pitfalls of poor communication or lack of communication after a scene.
+To ensure the safety of everyone, the two will agree to a form of outreach as part of aftercare for the scene and during that outreach, report honorably and with integrity any abnormal deviations, bad moods/attitudes, feelings about the scene, misgivings about the scene, and anything else that might be relevant.  This also helps with enhancing communication and trust between the two parties and avoid the pitfalls of poor communication or lack of communication after a scene that can lead to toxic gossip and character assassination.
 In the case a negative mood swing occurs and is reported, one will call or meet with the other casually to provide support and counsel as they are able, or help them find someone who can in the instance that they are unable.

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 == Shop ==
-Shop for aftercare materials at the [[store]].
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 [[YKINMK|Many do not wish to embrace typical aftercare methods]]. Some would prefer time alone, while others would prefer not be touched at all, and others would like some form of [[Humiliation]] or [[Degradation]] as aftercare to constitute part of their fantasy. There is no [[one true way| one right way]] to participate in aftercare, but it is important to negotiate aftercare well before a scene occurs to create mutually beneficial and [[Consent|consensual]] agreement about how aftercare is to take place.
+Shop for aftercare materials at the [[store]].
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	[[YKINMK\|Many do not wish to embrace typical aftercare methods]]. Some would prefer time alone, while others would prefer not be touched at all, and others would like some form of [[Humiliation]] or [[Degradation]] as aftercare to constitute part of their fantasy. There is no [[one true way\| one right way]] to participate in aftercare, but it is important to negotiate aftercare well before a scene occurs to create mutually beneficial and [[Consent\|consensual]] agreement about how aftercare is to take place.		[[YKINMK\|Many do not wish to embrace typical aftercare methods]]. Some would prefer time alone, while others would prefer not be touched at all, and others would like some form of [[Humiliation]] or [[Degradation]] as aftercare to constitute part of their fantasy. There is no [[one true way\| one right way]] to participate in aftercare, but it is important to negotiate aftercare well before a scene occurs to create mutually beneficial and [[Consent\|consensual]] agreement about how aftercare is to take place.
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 Both [[Sub drop]] and [[Top drop]] are very real conditions that can result from an intense scene sometimes between one to three days from the scene itself. Sub drop, however, is far more common in practice.
-Responsible aftercare doesn't just end shortly after the scene, but extends over that period.
+Responsible aftercare doesn't just end shortly after the scene, but extends over that period of 1-3 days.
-To ensure the safety of everyone, the top will request the bottom contact them the next day to ensure the bottom is in a good space and report any deviations of a bad mood, and further the top also indicates they will do the same.
+To ensure the safety of everyone, the two will agree to a form of outreach as part of aftercare for the scene and during that outreach, report any abnormal deviations, bad moods/attitudes, feelings about the scene, and anything else that might be relevant.  This also helps with enhancing communication and trust between the two parties and avoid the pitfalls of poor communication or lack of communication after a scene.
-In the case a negative mood swing occurs and is reported, one will call or meet with the other casually to provide support and counsel as they are able.
+In the case a negative mood swing occurs and is reported, one will call or meet with the other casually to provide support and counsel as they are able, or help them find someone who can in the instance that they are unable.
 == Criticisms ==

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 *The top will provide subtle and soft positive verbal reinforcement to help guide the bottom into a feeling of peace and serenity.
 *The top will provide occasional touch to skin that was not used during the scene on the head, limbs and back of the bottom, tracing the fingers lightly along the skin as gentle as one might touch their own face with only enough force to feel it. These areas of skin may be considered hyper sensitive and touch should be intermittent and not used to torture but instead to relax.
-*The top will offer chocolate to the bottom (providing they not have a medical condition that forbids it) to help increase blood sugar as well as release Oxycontin.
+*The top will offer chocolate to the bottom (providing they not have a medical condition that forbids it) to help increase blood sugar as well as release Oxytocin.
 *The top will continue providing continued yet intermittent positive reinforcement and nurturing touch. The top will stay with the bottom until they are relatively awake, alert, able to care for themselves and in a good head space. The top will not leave the bottom alone to feel abandoned or to fall accidentally.
 *Both will ensure the other is in a positive frame of mind before leaving the other.