Difference between revisions of "Protector"

From BDSM Wiki
Jump to: navigation, search
[unchecked revision][unchecked revision]
(Potential duties of a protector)
 
(3 intermediate revisions by the same user not shown)
Line 9: Line 9:
 
*Negotiate scenes on behalf of the charge after intimately understanding their wants, needs and limitations.
 
*Negotiate scenes on behalf of the charge after intimately understanding their wants, needs and limitations.
 
*Give or deny permissions for a charge to have specific play partners.
 
*Give or deny permissions for a charge to have specific play partners.
*Set limits on the charge for amount and types of play to avoid or mitigate the effects of [[Frenzy]].
+
*Set limits on the charge for amount and types of play to avoid or mitigate the effects of [[Frenzy]] or [[Drop]].
 
*Monitor scenes the charge engages in as if they were a [[DM]].
 
*Monitor scenes the charge engages in as if they were a [[DM]].
 
*Provide demonstrations, advice, or [[Mentor|mentoring]] guidance for the charge.
 
*Provide demonstrations, advice, or [[Mentor|mentoring]] guidance for the charge.
*Provide a transition period (usually 2-4 weeks) as a service dominant to a slave in their leather family that has recently become unowned for any number of reasons.
+
*Provide a transition period (usually 2-4 weeks) as a service [[dominant]] to a [[slave]] in their [[leather family]] that has recently become [[unowned]] for any number of reasons.
 +
*Shew away potential undesirable persons of any kind.
 +
*Watch over an owned [[s-type]] in the absence of their [[d-type]] (by request) by performing some of the above duties.
  
The inclusion of these elements is usually left to express negotiation and agreement between the parties. A Protector-charge relationship generally is not expected to last for a long term, but generally will often last for one or several months depending upon the needs of the charge.
+
The inclusion of these elements is usually left to express negotiation and agreement between the parties. A Protector-charge relationship generally is not expected to last for a long term, but generally will often last for one [[BDSM Events| event]] or several months depending upon the needs of the charge.
  
 
== [[Best Practices]] ==
 
== [[Best Practices]] ==
  
The role of a protector does not equate to being someone's Dominant, Play partner, Trainer, or sex partner. It is important to determine that attaining one of these positions is not a hidden motive of a potential protector as it is not entirely uncommon to have predatory individuals offer to protect vulnerable explorers of BDSM as a ruse to gain access to exploit them. Be sure that a protector you select is someone that you can trust not to take advantage of you.
+
The role of a protector does not equate to being someone's [[Dominant]], [[Play]] partner, [[Trainer]], or sex partner. It is important to determine that attaining one of these positions is not a hidden motive of a potential protector as it is not entirely uncommon to have predatory individuals offer to protect vulnerable new explorers of [[BDSM]] as a ruse to gain access to those without good information or in a diminished capacity, and exploit them. Be sure that a protector you select is someone that you can trust not to take advantage of you.
  
 
[[Category:Non-Binary Status Roles]][[Category:Theory]]
 
[[Category:Non-Binary Status Roles]][[Category:Theory]]

Latest revision as of 20:13, 16 August 2014

A protector is a person who escorts and/or watches over a Charge to ensure that the other is safe, exact duties will vary based upon protection negotiations.

Potential duties of a protector

A protector might:

  • Attend events and introduce the charge as such to others.
  • Utilize a collar of protection or otherwise ward off unwanted advances from others that make the charge uncomfortable.
  • Negotiate scenes on behalf of the charge after intimately understanding their wants, needs and limitations.
  • Give or deny permissions for a charge to have specific play partners.
  • Set limits on the charge for amount and types of play to avoid or mitigate the effects of Frenzy or Drop.
  • Monitor scenes the charge engages in as if they were a DM.
  • Provide demonstrations, advice, or mentoring guidance for the charge.
  • Provide a transition period (usually 2-4 weeks) as a service dominant to a slave in their leather family that has recently become unowned for any number of reasons.
  • Shew away potential undesirable persons of any kind.
  • Watch over an owned s-type in the absence of their d-type (by request) by performing some of the above duties.

The inclusion of these elements is usually left to express negotiation and agreement between the parties. A Protector-charge relationship generally is not expected to last for a long term, but generally will often last for one event or several months depending upon the needs of the charge.

Best Practices

The role of a protector does not equate to being someone's Dominant, Play partner, Trainer, or sex partner. It is important to determine that attaining one of these positions is not a hidden motive of a potential protector as it is not entirely uncommon to have predatory individuals offer to protect vulnerable new explorers of BDSM as a ruse to gain access to those without good information or in a diminished capacity, and exploit them. Be sure that a protector you select is someone that you can trust not to take advantage of you.