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The role of a protector does not equate to being someone's Dominant, Play partner, Trainer, or sex partner. It is important to determine that attaining one of these positions is not a hidden motive of a potential protector as it is not entirely uncommon to have predatory individuals offer to protect vulnerable explorers of BDSM as a ruse to gain access to exploit them. Be sure that a protector you select is someone that you can trust not to take advantage of you.
 
The role of a protector does not equate to being someone's Dominant, Play partner, Trainer, or sex partner. It is important to determine that attaining one of these positions is not a hidden motive of a potential protector as it is not entirely uncommon to have predatory individuals offer to protect vulnerable explorers of BDSM as a ruse to gain access to exploit them. Be sure that a protector you select is someone that you can trust not to take advantage of you.
  
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Revision as of 16:46, 6 April 2014

A protector is a person who escorts and/or watches over a Charge to ensure that the other is safe, exact duties will vary based upon protection negotiations.

Potential duties of a protector

A protector might:

  • Attend events and introduce the charge as such to others.
  • Utilize a collar of protection or otherwise ward off unwanted advances from others that make the charge uncomfortable.
  • Negotiate scenes on behalf of the charge after intimately understanding their wants, needs and limitations.
  • Give or deny permissions for a charge to have specific play partners.
  • Set limits on the charge for amount and types of play to avoid or mitigate the effects of Frenzy.
  • Monitor scenes the charge engages in as if they were a DM.
  • Provide demonstrations, advice, or mentoring guidance for the charge.
  • Provide a transition period (usually 2-4 weeks) as a service dominant to a slave in their leather family that has recently become unowned for any number of reasons.

The inclusion of these elements is usually left to express negotiation and agreement between the parties. A Protector-charge relationship generally is not expected to last for a long term, but generally will often last for one or several months depending upon the needs of the charge.

Best Practices

The role of a protector does not equate to being someone's Dominant, Play partner, Trainer, or sex partner. It is important to determine that attaining one of these positions is not a hidden motive of a potential protector as it is not entirely uncommon to have predatory individuals offer to protect vulnerable explorers of BDSM as a ruse to gain access to exploit them. Be sure that a protector you select is someone that you can trust not to take advantage of you.