Category:Slave Training

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Slave Training involves advanced Negotiations, levels of Consent and Relationship dynamics and is a form of relationship specific training generally following a period of consideration associated with M/s dynamics that is intended to lead to the application of a final collar and contract if such conventions are adhered to.

In practical terms, training involves learning and practicing desired skills, and adhering to the household's structure of protocols and rituals which develops and reinforces habits of obedience and eases submission in other areas.

While slave training is most commonly associated with M/s style power exchange, the techniques can be applied to virtually any sort of power exchange with some minor creative modifications.

The Four P's

The 4 P's Model breaks training down into teaching the d-type's protocols, preferences and principles, and aligns the s-type or slave's perceptions with their status. In the M/s ongoing training model, these 4 P's have to be actively maintained as well as taught, and updated if the dominant's desires or other circumstances change.

  • Principles - the d-type's core and general ethical values and practical principles, which a s-type can use to deal with unanticipated situations.
  • Protocols - rules that govern the body behavior and attitude for the s-type, including both practical issues and rituals.
  • Preferences - the personal likes and dislikes of the dominant (and anyone else they will be serving.)
  • Perceptions - including rejecting false entitlement, or feeling owned due to Internal Enslavement.

Period of Training

Training of s-types and slaves is viewed as both an initial period of teaching and an ongoing process, similar to athletes or dancers who "keep up with their training".

Frequently a common period of training will extend for one year of live in service.

A period of training may have a contract of its own.

The period of training can involve a certain amount of self-training by the slave, however, keeping up with training in a long term relationship imposes a role and obligations on the Master as the ultimate enforcers of the standards they choose to require.

Psychological Reactance

It has been suggested that repeatedly being confronted with rules that must be obeyed helps wear down feelings of psychological reactance.

Brehm summarised his Theory of Psychological Reactance by saying: "In general, the theory holds that a threat to or loss of a freedom motivates the individual to restore that freedom. ... The theory stipulates what constitutes a freedom, how freedoms can be threatened or eliminated, and how the ensuing motivational state (psychological reactance) will manifest itself." [1]

The theory also associates the state of reactance with emotional stress, anxiety, resistance and struggle for the individual, and is a powerful model for understanding the behaviour of slaves as their freedoms are progressively removed.

Anticipatory service vs. reactive service

This occasional dispute refers to the question of whether submissives should wait for and obey their dominants's orders or whether the submissive should anticipate the services their dominant desires and provide the service without first asking the dominant. The specific answer depends entirely upon the whim of the Master in question.

Those who dislike anticipatory service cite it as an example of topping from the bottom and point out that no person can correctly anticipate every need or desire. They also suggest that anticipatory service can become irritating or undermining of attitudes of ownership or possession if the submissive's judgement is routinely substituted for the dominant's orders.

Advocates of anticipatory service claim that the activity of continuously thinking about and attempting to provide service desirable to the owner has the effect of making the submissive an evermore perfect instrument of the owner's will and bringing dominant and submissive into a more intimate bond. Advocates of anticipatory service suggest that the necessity for dominants to continuously voice their preferences (as is the case in purely reactive service relationships) reduces the relaxation that this lifestyle offers to dominants.

In practice, no power exchange relationship features purely anticipatory or reactive service. So the dispute is actually about how much of the slave's service should be anticipatory or reactive.


This category has the following 2 subcategories, out of 2 total.